Love – actual love – makes us real to each other. It is as much a light as it is flame, and it calls us back to ourselves. There can’t be love where there is abuse. There isn’t light in that darkness. Stopping the cycle of abuse starts with understanding what love is and what love isn’t.
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r/AbuseInterrupted started as my personal library after Google shuttered Google Reader, and became a project exploring vectors of abuse and power dynamics.
I wanted to stop the cycle of abuse in my own life and in my own family.
Over a decade later, and the subreddit became more than a repository of information, but a place where I worked on deconstructing the underlying elements of not only abuse and abusive systems, but of healing and restoration, and love.
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What is love?
The definition of love My favorite definition of love comes from John Steinbeck (yes, “Of Mice and Men” John Steinbeck) from a letter to his son: ‘[Love] is an outpouring of everything good in you — of kindness and consideration and respect — not only the social respect of manners but the greater respect which …
At some point your body physically cannot handle abuse
I have been a support to some of the homeless in my area, and one woman I had been helping showed up on my doorstep sobbing after her boyfriend attacked her the night before. She had to tell him she was going to the bathroom so she could get away and get to help. One …
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When they strangle you, when they control your breath, when you can’t breathe, they control your life
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